Book Series

Question: Why am I writing three books?  

Helen Ellis:  Each generation of a distance family has its own 'package' of life stuff they deal with. Distance familying isn't easy and each generation benefits from understanding how it is for the 'other'. That knowledge creates empathy and empathy is an important ingredient of successful distance familying. I encourage all generations to read all three books

"Empathy costs nothing, but gives a lot."
​Bridget Romanes, MOBILE - Relocation Experts

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​Being a Distance Grandparent

A Book for ALL Generations

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Whether you have been a distance grandparent (or distance parent) for 20 days, 20 months or 20 years you will find comfort in Helen's words as she unpacks this prolific, whilst still under-the-radar social phenomenon. Distance grandparenting can, at times, be a rather lonely experience full of mixed emotions.
If you are a distance daughter, son or grandchild you'll find this an uplifting, helpful read. It will be easier to fulfil your role.

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​Being a Distance Son or Daughter

A Book for ALL Generations

​​Being a distance (adult) child can, at times, feeling like a tight rope of obligations. Likely your parents said, "You can do anything"... and that is exactly what you have done. You have followed your dreams, or a career or a love and settled in another country. But sometimes life gets complicated and you are torn. Guilt about left-behind family can raise its ugly head. How do you as a distance son, daughter, son-in-law, daughter-in-law or partner navigate your role? What have you learned? What would you like your parents and grandparents to understand?

Publication: 2021+

​Being a Distance Grandchild

A Book for ALL Generations

​​Have you grown up away from your grandparents? Is it important to you to involve them in your life or to learn about the country where they are? For some, there will be effort put in to maintain a relationship, and for others the distance may have created too difficult a dynamic to bother. There may not have been any choice on your part to be far away — how has this affected you? What is your experience?


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Publication: 2022+

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How far is the 'distance' of Distance Familying?

​There are no hard and fast rules on what the distance is but, as a guideline, if you live in a different time zone from your family, or if a 'weekend visit' – by either party – is logistically just about impossible due to a long flight or many hours of driving, then that is certainly a 'distance' relationship. However, in COVID-19 times distance has taken on a whole new meaning.