Welcome to the monthly newsletter from DistanceFamilies.com Will there come a day when COVID-19 isn't a universal topic of conversation? It sure is here, because Auckland's at Day 79 of the strictest lockdown restrictions the world has seen, while also achieving one of the highest vaccination rates and lowest % of ICU patient numbers. Next week retail shops reopen which we're so excited about... even those of us who aren't shoppers. No hairdressers yet. Many of you have been here, I know. I do hope that next month I can report that NZ has been transformed into a welcoming, open, fully functioning country. In the meantime, those of you heading into winter I hope you're escaping the bad flu that seems to be lurking around every corner. Take care Helen Ellis BOOK SERIES NEWS
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Kind regards Helen Ellis DistanceFamilies.com helen.ellis.nz@gmail.com
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Welcome to the October Newsletter from Distance Families. Here in Auckland, New Zealand we're into our longest lockdown ever. I don't get bored as I am working on the next book, Being a Distance Son or Daughter - a Book for ALL Generations, but, like everyone else I'd love to easily meet friends and local family in person, meander the paths of a garden centre (it is Spring here!) and travel more than a few kms from home. We've had to cancel two holidays as we can't leave Auckland. It is interesting to observe where each country 'is at' with COVID-19. We're all in such different places of thinking with varying government plans of reopening to the world. For our children and grandchildren in the U.S. and U.K. they're experiencing a new form of 'business as normal', while we're still locked away. It all makes for some animated family chats as we discuss the pros and cons. It's been three years since we've seen each other and it feels like we've done our time, so to speak. Crossing our fingers 2022 brings a change of direction. Enjoy the news and thank you for supporting Distance Families. Kind regards Helen Ellis Founder BOOK NEWSReview of Being a Distance Grandparent - a Book for ALL Generations. Today this new review appeared on Amazon UK and it warmed my heart. My passion and drive behind this book series is to make a difference and help all generations of Distance Families. Thanks to this reviewer. If you've read my book and would like to leave a review for me I would be delighted to receive it. Here is a link to online platforms. @drawntoastory is the home of Cath Brew's artistry. Cath designed the internal layout of my book and also drew the lovely sketches. Here is one for your enjoyment. DISTANCE FAMILIES NEWS#GlobalMobilityBooks In a desire to support other global mobility authors I have starting reviewing a fellow author's book every Friday on Instagram at @helenellis.author. Here are the first two titles: Cultural Chemistry by Patti McCarthy #LivingTheDream by Adrienne Walder et al. Best article of the month This one is my top pick. A heartwarming message for all generations. A Grandmother's Love and Limits: A Letter to my Mom I was delighted to have an article published in the online magazine, Among Worlds Distance Grandparent/Grandchild Relationships: A Slow Cooker Metaphor Website DistanceFamilies.com I have spent some time tidying the website. There's a new dedicated page for interviews (podcasts, webinars & radio) and articles have a separate page also. Social media links are now at Follow. Global shopping platforms are here. NZ readers... you'll find a page of book shops that stock my book. If you live overseas and wish to send a copy to your folks back home in NZ please support these retailers. They need your business right now! ON THE HOME FRONTThanks for reading. I look forward to chatting next month. Kind regards Helen Ellis DistanceFamilies.com helen.ellis.nz@gmail.com Should you ever wish to unsubscribe please send an email noting 'unsubscribe' in the Comment Box and I will take care of it.
Welcome to the September newsletter Book newsMy book is landing in bookshops in New Zealand which is very exciting. A big thank you to @nationwide.books for a job well done. Being a Distance Grandparent - a Book for ALL Generations will feature in the FIGT Australia/New Zealand Affiliate Monday 13 September Six Author Online Seminar The book topics are diverse. 90 minutes All welcome - FREE For authors' bios, time zone info and to register click here.
Distance Families NewsEvery month I devour numerous articles regarding mobility, transnational families and all things globalisation. I select just the best for my social media feeds and load those with longevity onto the website's Resources page. My top picks this month are: How Living Abroad Helps You Develop a Clearer Sense of Self The evolution of global mobility And I have written a couple of articles myself: Distance Grandparenting and Ambiguous Loss Hats off to NZ Distance Grandparents - the Voice of Knowing 2021 TEMI AwardsGlobal mobility human resources players admit little thought is given to their employees' wellbeing as members of a Distance Family: a role that never leaves their being even with job and career changes. COVID-19 has seriously disrupted 'doing' Distance Families and this affects employees' wellbeing. The Employee Mobility Institute (TEMI) is Australasia’s foremost community based network of Global Workforce Management professionals solely focused on supporting individuals and organisations develop, grow and strengthen their cross border talent management capabilities globally. TEMI wishes to bring Distance Families into the arena and I am proud to report I have been nominated for their 2021 TEMI Awards. On the home frontOn the domestic/NZ front one case of the Delta virus infiltrated the community and immediately the whole country went into a 'hard and fast' lockdown, and we're still there. In fairness we have had life sort of as normal since February. This drastic move is paying off as current new infections are all close household contacts and not unexpected. The numbers are going down, but there's still a few weeks to go before we can come out of our bubble. My email IN box is filling with cancellation messages - shows, holidays, choir concerts, dinners with friends etc. I would describe life as pretty vanilla but at least we're safe and well. So back to Zoom 'Drinks n Nibbles' and walks within 2 kms. Back in March I submitted my Master's Distance Grandparenting thesis to the Expatriate Archive Centre based in the Netherlands, for a global competition recognising the importance of telling and recording expatriates' stories. I was pretty chuffed to wake up one morning to this news from Europe. Take care and keep safe. Helen Ellis Should you ever wish to unsubscribe please send an email noting 'unsubscribe' in the Comment Box and I will take care of it.
Welcome to the August newsletter. Book NewsJuly continued with much media activity and there is still more to come. I was privileged to participate in what’s considered in NZ ,the Holy Grail of new-author media opportunities – an interview with Kathryn Ryan on the Nine to Noon Radio NZ show. Kathryn is based in Wellington and I had to go to the Auckland studio. I don’t know if I was more nervous about securing entry to their building’s locked underground carpark and finding my allocated carpark, or the actual interview. Anyway, both went like clockwork and feedback has been positive. My book is now available in South Africa via Loot and TakeaLot. I have a deep compassion for South African Distance Families especially the folks back home. Book reviews continue to be positive for which I am most grateful and my book in a recommend Top Five Books list for migrants moving to Australia. I continue to add resources to DistanceFamilies.com. There are articles and helpful books to read, podcasts to listen to and videos to watch – pick what works for you. You’ll find me on social media if that's your cup of tea. I treat each platform differently. There is some cross over of content, but much is personalised for each platform. Right now I am making head roads into writing and researching Being a Distance Son or Daughter – a Book for ALL Generations. It will be published next year. Distance Families NewsI have noticed many distance families in the Northern Hemisphere reconnecting during your summer. This is wonderful to see. COVID-19 has forced us to be so grateful for physical family connections. We’ll never take them for granted again. Paula Span the Family writer for The New York Times collaborated with Emily Morgan from The Grand Life in an article about intergenerational family gatherings. When I was a university student I had the privilege of meeting Distinguished Professor Paul Spoonley. He presented me with a couple of awards which was nice when you are a mature student in a young people's world. His area of expertise is demographics, migration/emigration. He is cited in my book and when he kindly reviewed it he wrote... The demography of high-income societies in the 21st century is fascinating in its implications. This book deals with an aspect that has received little attention, distance grandparenting. It provides an engaging account of the issues and helps answers the questions about "why" as well as the "how to". I thoroughly recommend this book, both for those who are already "distance grandparents" and for those who are interested. On the home frontHubby has recovered well from his knee replacement. He then caught the flu and generously shared it with me. How kind. I'm not particularly athletic but Saturdays you generally find me brushing off my walking/jogging shoes to participate in the local #ParkRun. Recent early starts have made for contrasting photos. Thanks for reading. Catch you in September.
Kind regards Helen Ellis The past month has been one of buzzing media activity. I employed a lovely publicist who discovered many doors opened as geographically separated families are rather topical right now. It started with a bang on a Sunday morning when a page and a half in the biggest NZ newspaper was devoted to excerpts from my book. What a blessing to give distance grandparents a voice. From there radio interviews have been happening along with print media reviews. Very exciting. In the meantime my distributor has been hard at work getting the message to the book shops. Not got your copy yet? Here is the best link to all the local and global platforms. Enjoy some of the June news. Take care Helen NZ media campaign kicks offThe NZ media campaign has commenced for 'Being a Distance Grandparent - a Book for ALL Generations'. A full page and a half in the NZ Sunday Star Times. Here's an extra photo from our virtual family wedding at the start of June. All things are possible.How to manage a distance family virtual wedding photo! Hubby and I am in the phone. From L-R our son Robbie holding grandson Gerard, Jennifer, Lucy our daughter and holding her other son Peter. Video calls with family don't always go according to plan.I call the ones that don't work - 'Mediocre Encounters'. In my book I describe them as, "The video call that started with great intentions but finished all too early due to a crying child, the doorbell, a phone call, an 'I need the potty' cry - all manner of completely normal and ordinary interruptions of daily life resulting in, "We'll try another time." This article talks of the necessity to manage our expectations in these circumstances... not necessarily easy! Radio InterviewWe're never too old to do something new. To say the last month has been hectic is an understatement. Lots of big deal happenings. It started with my husband having an overdue knee replacement - so he has been home 24/7 needing a dash of care here and there. My MA graduation finally happened and all the while I was cooking, shopping, cleaning and testing scary technology to host a Live Screen Wedding Breakfast in our home for 40+ guests. Our son in Chicago was married two days ago. In between that my new book Being a Distance Grandparent - a Book for ALL Generations was making its entre into the world. I am hoping the rest of June will be a tad quieter. Come July a book media campaign will kick off in New Zealand and that will be fun. To those of you with Dads in the U.K., U.S.A., Canada or South Africa - just a reminder it is Fathers Day there on Sunday 20th June. There is still time to order a paperback or e-book version for Dad. A Distance Mother/Grandmother told me at the wedding, "As soon as I started reading your book I couldn't put it down. I related to so much. Yes, some was hard and some was heartwarming and that's okay. I loved it!" Finally I have branched out into Instagram. If that is your cup of tea you'll find me here @helenellis.author Until next month Take care and happy Distance Familying Helen Ellis Book excerpt: "Fruit cake is a working partner in my Distance Grandparenting role"“I gingerly attempted to pass on a love of this treat to my American grandsons who live in a country that has little appreciation of this delicious English pleasure. It is no exaggeration to say these young lads have become obsessed with fruitcake so it is transported in suitcases to America. It has even achieved the lofty status of Santa’s favourite indulgence. A slice is left under the tree on Christmas Eve along with the English tradition of a glass of port. This senses-filled (sight, taste, and smell) fruitcake experience for my grandsons has evolved into an embedded family tradition and builds bonds and connections while simultaneously trying to offset the unsettling nature of Distance Grandparenting. Fruitcake is a working partner in my Distance Grandparenting role.” M.A... tickI did the bulk of my Masters in 2019 and submitted my thesis, "How is distance grandparenting for you?" A study of long haul, New Zealand distance grandparents and inter-generational transnational familying in April 2020. Finally, in May 2021 I collected the certificate. Patience is a virtue. Fun webinarRobyn Vogels is an expert at relocation. She is based in Melbourne and owns Personnel Relocations. Her business is helping emigrants to leave well and arrive well. We talk a little about what to do before families leave. This is a hectic time with much on everyone's To-Do list. A little time and attention spent with the soon-to-be left-behind parents and grandparents helping them adjust, can be so fruitful. Click below to watch the webinar. What did I learn being the Mother of the Groom at a Live Screen Zoom wedding?Two days ago our son got married in Chicago to a lovely U.S. lass. We hosted 40+ for Sunday breakfast at our place and Zoom was a guest of honour.
Our house was alive and pumping, stretched at the seams with family, our son’s friends and our friends - babies, children, raincoats, umbrellas and a kids’ toy corner. Our three x TV's and separate speeches links all worked (we practiced a lot), despite the fact that I vacuumed up a very important connection the day before. The breakfast buffet meal in the garage was a great success. My local friend who ‘did’ for me in the kitchen was a trooper. We had a lovely NZ cake cutting ceremony just for our guests that we’ll treasure. I read the story from my book (above) about fruitcake. We were grateful in NZ we could gather as we did. Separately, many tuned in on Zoom around the world. Most importantly everyone realized that if it were ‘normal times’ hardly anyone present would have been in Chicago and the wedding, for most, would have been no more than a few photos that landed in their Facebook feed. We don’t have the experiences of a trip to Chicago and ‘being there’, but we do have many people to share our memories with – and that’s not all bad. #stuartelliswedding On the 20th of April, when my book was published, I could legitimately call myself an author for the first time. I have had many job titles over the years but never... an author. It feels pretty special but more importantly the book is receiving nothing but positive comments and that's incredibly satisfying. As the dust settles I have made a start the next book, Being a Distance Son or Daughter - a Book for ALL Generations. I can't tell you when it will be published. The first one took a year which is pretty good. Let's see how long this one takes! Kind regards Helen Ellis It's here...Every author waits for THIS moment. It's the first and only copy in New Zealand and really chuffed with it. The global printers will crank up their machines next week. Trans Tasman BubbleLove this. Whānau is Maori for extended family. The skies have opened between New Zealand and Australia. Distance Families can now reunite with no compulsory quarantine. A Red Letter Day for many Distance Families. Important DeliveryMy book stock has arrived and copies are heading off to the NZ media - pretty exciting. A media launch will commence in New Zealand on 1 July 2021. To order your copy from anywhere click here. "Say it with flowers"In my book, I write about the power of the written word and how precious letters and cards are to their recipient. This week I received some congratulatory flowers from an overseas friend. What a joy. Flowers are too fragile to send around the world – but here they were, delivered with a press of the doorbell. It reminded me of my youth when my father managed the advertising account for Interflora. As a teenager, I thought Interflora was incredibly glamorous. How amazing it would be to receive flowers from the other side of the world? This was of course! well before the internet. Important messages including flower orders were sent by telegram. These thoughts led me to delve into the history of Interflora which still operates today. If you’re interested, have a look at this YouTube link. But back to this post – flowers, like the written word, have power. These days we can use Interflora or email a florist in the same suburb as our distance family and pay no more to have flowers delivered, than if they lived down the road. Good to remember. I normally send my monthly newsletter in the first week of the month. This is a bonus extra message. Pre-order is now available for Being a Distance Grandparent - a Book for ALL Generations.I am excited to announce that pre-order is available now - delivery from 20 April. Just a reminder it is Mother's Day in some parts of the world on Sunday 9th May. Here's a link to the global bookstores, plus some local in-country distributors. “I wish I had read this book before our first translocation. This book is a well-structured, informative and knowledge-based read about distance grandparenting. Throughout the book Helen offers a broad range of perspectives as a New Zealander distance grandparent, which gives a very authentic yet disciplinary approach to the understanding of the topic. With her honesty and personal voice the book becomes a very enjoyable easy read. It is a must-read for each member of a distance family, a book you should read over and over again.” Traditionally March it is a busy month in New Zealand as it is prime-time summer and loads of events are on. This year, despite our relative Covid-utopia status, many have been cancelled again. We wait with baited breath of a bubble to open between NZ and Australia and NZ and the Cook Islands but still we're locked away. All our new norms, now almost seem normal. On the book front it is 'all go'. You'll see below the publication date is Tuesday 20 April so by the time the next newsletter is out I will be a published author which I have to say... feels very strange and exciting. I keep updating the 'Shop' page on my website with the latest information. In a week or so I should announce advance ordering facilities. You will be able to place your order ahead of 20 April and it will automatically arrive in due course. Take care Helen E It's happening...Introducing Professor Loretta BaldassarIntroducing... Professor Loretta Baldassar. Loretta Baldassar is a Professor in the Discipline Group of Anthropology and Sociology at The University of Western Australia. Transnational families and caring from a distance are two of her research topics.Professor Baldassar kindly agreed to write the 'Foreword' for my book, ‘Being a Distance Grandparent – a Book for ALL Generations’. She shared some of her own fascinating family story. Click below to read. PodcastI was recently a podcast guest - a most enjoyable experience. Author, Emily Morgan founded 'The Grand Life' podcast and I can thoroughly recommend it. An easy 20 minute listen. Do you live in a country where Mother’s Day and/or Father’s Day is celebrated on a different day from where your mother and/or father live? Since the last newsletter Auckland and the rest of New Zealand have been in and out of different level lockdowns again. It reminds me of a saying and movie title, If today is Tuesday, This must be Belgium. Each day you wake up and have to remind yourself where's the world at today? and what are today's rules? Plans of the NZ virtual wedding breakfast for our Chicago son are now surrounded with a cloud of question marks. A case of 'wait and see', like so many things. Lockdown has made little difference to me Monday-Friday as I am buried in my office. Each day is full of important decisions about tiny details of the book design of Being a Distance Grandparent. A shout out to Summertime Publishing whose attention to detail is second to none. You can expect a book launch date by the next newsletter. I am making a start on Being a Distance Son or Daughter and every so often getting diverted across to Being a Distance Grandchild. Terrific to be able to pour myself into these publications. Take care until next time Helen New coverDistanceFamilies.com is delighted to announce the safe arrival of a darling new cover. Mother and babe both well. She'll be showing her face in April 2021. For the latest feedback click here. The many sides of the Covid story"It is only now I realise the toll the pandemic has taken’: a letter from the other side of Covid." The mysteries of anthropologyWhen I describe myself, depending on where I am and who I am talking to, I might gingerly refer to myself as an anthropologist, albeit a fledgling one. Where did this begin? Dr Graeme Macrae from Massey University in Auckland has to take some responsibility. When I did my undergraduate degree I sat in his classes and he would take me on an exotic journey to peoples and cultures afar. Later he was one of my M.A. thesis supervisors. I never ended up researching the peoples of New Guinea or doing fieldwork in a village in Africa. Instead, my research took me to the lounge rooms (physical and virtual) of distance grandparents and a mainstream book series. Thank you Graeme. The maternal grandparent advantageMothers and Mothers-in-law - we've all got a story. I have seen many sides to this discussion and write about it in my book. This article is a good read and is still relevant to distance families. |
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